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Month: December 2017

Goodbye, 2017.

I begged the spirit world, the gods and goddesses or whatever deities were in attendance, to not take you from me in this depraved year. The year began in a menacing and unkind way. Mom died on January 23rd, Donald Trump’s first official day in office. Miraculously though, I had been with her, trying to warm her legs, which had turned blue from lack of circulation, and trying to feed her a nutritional drink, to keep her strength up. I am grateful for my presence, watching over her while you went to your doctor’s appointment, but she had already decided that it was time. You reminded me later, when I told you that I still had not cried and could not be completely sad, that in her opinion, it was well past time. “I’ve had enough of this life,” she said, years earlier.

You were completely devoted to each other, and now I realize that you both stayed here, beyond what you thought was sensible, for each other.

It is late December now, and you have left to be with her, despite my fervent, selfish hopes. In one of your more lucid moments, during the delirium, you said, “whatever happens has to happen.” In one of my more spiritual moments, I might believe that. On a good day, I might trust in that. You even reached up periodically to the ceiling of that bright hospital room, to your partner, asking to be claimed and to be reunited.

And yet, I still find myself, in dense waves, questioning every moment of those nightmarish, Felliniesque days (and, in fact, the 10-1/2 months prior). This discontent and self-doubt leads to the type of regrets that can rip apart the flesh and poison the soul.

There is no point to any of that, you would say. To beat myself up for what might have been had I done this, what might not have happened had I done that, is a waste of energy and an invitation to madness.

Instead, I will trust in the course of events and the passage of time. I will focus on the positives. Shock is the universe’s way to roust us from spiritual slumber. Once awake, we can open our eyes and see beyond the appearance of things to discover new possibilities and realize the truth.

The truth, for me, is this. As much as I wanted your life to be happier, more enjoyable and fulfilling, after mom died, there was only so much I could do. You had lost your soulmate and your motivation for holding it all together. There was simply too much of the past for me to unravel and mend, while the present forced itself upon us cruelly. And as much as you wanted me to be happier, there was just so much you could do. I had to take the initiative to honor myself, believe in my own value and be kind yet firm in my interactions with others.

I will do that now, in your memory.

And when, not if, I am successful, I will believe that the two of you will then share in my joy and my sense of purpose.

It is the only way forward.

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Same Boat – A message of unity from Swedish musician Albin Lee Meldau

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In a simple yet poignant video for his latest single, Swidish singer-songwriter Albin Lee Meldau eloquently points out that we’re all in the same boat. A large supporting cast of many races, backgrounds and sensibilities take part in the universally shared emotion of longing.

When the night is calling and I’m missing my baby
Knowing we’re all in the same boat.

It’s a soulful rendition with somber piano and the sounds of a church choir lending the vibe of a sacred hymn.

From Gothenburg, Sweden, Meldau is the progeny of a Swedish jazz singer mother and a British punk rock musician father. After two EPs on Astralwerks, he’s gearing up to release his debut album next year. This year, he debuted at Bonnaroo and SXSW, and was featured on NPR’s Tiny Desk Concert series. recently performed a rendition of “Same Boat” with the world renowned Staten Island PS22 Chorus. He is also featured on the Holidays Rule Volume 2 album, singing Mariah Carey’s “All I Want For Christmas Is You. His song “Lou Lou” racked up more than 27 million streams on Spotify, and he won the 2016 Anchor Award, an international competition for best new emerging talent.

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